11-05-2016

11-05&06-2016
Rev. Trevor Johnston
Sermon Series: Better Wise Up!
Sermon 2 – Stay Out of Folly’s House

 

 

  1. Share something that was meaningful to you out of your daily readings in Proverbs over this past week.

 

 

  1. In Exodus 20, God gave Israel the 10 Commandments, which include (in verse 14): “You shall not commit adultery.”  “Adultery” is any sexual relations with someone who is not your spouse.  It includes any behavior that is outside of God’s standards of sexuality.  God’s  standard is that sex is a gift for us to experience only within the boundaries of a one-woman-one-man, life-long marriage commitment.

 

In Matthew 5:28, Jesus didn’t cancel this out, but rather – He made this even more challenging when He said:  “But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”

 

Based on both of these passages, how does God want His people to live with respect to our sexuality?

 

 

  1. Trevor assured us that Jesus doesn’t use shame and condemnation with us. Why is this especially important to remember when it comes to the topic of adultery?

 

 

  1. What are our culture’s current standards in the area of sexuality? How does our culture’s view of sexuality compare with God’s plan?

 

 

  1. Read Proverbs 2:16-19: “Wisdom will save you also from the adulterous woman, from the wayward woman with her seductive words, 17 who has left the partner of her youth and ignored the covenant she made before God. 18 Surely her house leads down to death and her paths to the spirits of the dead. 19 None who go to her return or attain the paths of life.”

 

Going into the house of “Lady Folly” is a metaphor for getting involved in sexual sin. Scripture warns us to stay out of Lady Folly’s house, because it leads ultimately to pain and death.  From what you’ve read in Proverbs and from what you’ve seen in our world, what are some of the negative consequences that can result from ignoring God’s sexual standards?
Pastor Trevor gave the following ideas to help us not to get pulled into Lady Folly’s house:

 

  • Distance yourself from the door.

 

  1. In the movie, Karate Kid, Mr. Miyagi said, “Best block is no be there.” Proverbs 5:8 says something similar:  “Keep to a path far from her, do not go near the door of her house.”  What point are Mr. Miyagi and Proverbs 5:8 making?  Why is this important when it comes to avoiding sexual sin?

 

  • In our relationships: Question for personal reflection:  Are there some people in your life that you need to distance yourself from, in order to avoid Lady Folly’s door?

 

  • If you’re a married person: Consider situations that could potentially tempt you to be unfaithful to your spouse. What are some wise boundaries and accountability systems that a married person could set up to help avoid unfaithfulness in marriage?

 

  • For single people: It’s important to plan in advance how you will avoid getting into a tempting situation.  What are some wise standards for single people that will help them avoid sexual sin?

 

  • With the internet and media: What boundaries and accountability systems can an individual or a family set up to protect yourself from sexual temptation on the internet?

 

  • Recognize Lady Folly’s Hustle.

 

  1. Proverbs 7:15-23 describes the deceptive “hustle” of Lady Folly: “So I came out to meet you; and I looked for you and have found you! I have covered my bed with colored linens from Egypt.  17 I have perfumed my bed with myrrh, aloes and cinnamon.  18 Come, let’s drink deeply of love till morning; let’s enjoy ourselves with love! 19 My husband is not at home; he has gone on a long journey.  20 He took his purse filled with money and will not be home till full moon.”  21 With persuasive words she led him astray; she seduced him with her smooth talk.  22 All at once he followed her like an ox going to the slaughter, like a deer stepping into a noose 23 till an arrow pierces his liver, like a bird darting into a snare, little knowing it will cost him his life.”

 

Watch out for the false promises:

  • A false promise of pleasure:

 

Proverbs 5:3-4:  “For the lips of the adulterous woman drip honey, and her speech is smoother than oil; 4 but in the end she is bitter as gall, sharp as a double-edged sword.”

 

Hebrews 11:25 reminds us that the pleasures of sin are fleeting pleasures.  Sin might seem sweet for a while, but ultimately it’s going to hurt you.

 

When faced with sexual temptation, preach to yourself to remind yourself, “It’s not going to be worth it!”

 

  • A false promise of no consequences.

 

Proverbs 6:27-29:  “Can a man scoop fire into his lap without his clothes being burned?  28 Can a man walk on hot coals without his feet being scorched?  29 So is he who sleeps with another man’s wife; no one who touches her will go unpunished”

 

Satan will try to tell you, “No one is going to know.  Nothing bad is going to happen.”  But God loves you too much to let you get away with secret sin.  He knows it will make you sick and bring your life to ruin.

 

Preach to yourself to remind yourself, “I won’t get away with it!”

 

What are some false messages people tend to tell themselves about sexual practices that are outside of God’s will?

 

Two closing questions people might be asking:

 

  1. What if I’ve already committed sexual sin?

 

Be assured that Jesus can set you free from the guilt of sexual sin.  There is no sin that Jesus can’t forgive and wash whiter than snow.  Today you can have a fresh start by confessing your sin to Him and accepting His forgiveness.

 

  1. What if I’m stuck? What if I’m already addicted to sexual sin? 

 

Jesus can set you free from the power of sin over you.  On your own, you will feel trapped.  But with God’s help and helpful recovery tools, you can get freedom.  Go to our Monday night Celebrate Recovery Ministry at 7pm to get the tools you need to get free.

 

 

  1. What was the most helpful idea out of this sermon for you personally?

3 Comments on “11-05-2016”

  1. Thanks Kathy for providing the message outline and discussion questions.

    Thanks Pastor Trevor for bringing it with truth and grace.

    Prayerfully,

    His body

  2. Thank you for such an anointed message on adultry. It’s the best I’ve heard on the subject in a long time.
    I especially like how you took old testement entry “God’s law” and combined it with what Jesus message in New Testement. It’s taught me several things:
    1. To forgive those who have played with “folly” for I’ve been so CRUSHED and DISAPPOINTED in the past with Christians who’ve comited adultry especially with each other and families and ministries destroyed over it. And the” baby Christians ” watching leadership disobey God like that and what distorted reflections and views of Christ these babie’s got in their minds.
    2. I liked how you combined everything sexual as “folly”…for many Christians young and old consider having sex outside of marriage ok. Many are living together, and many are saying “we are mature adults and don’t want to be alone forever, or we have sexual needs too”….and “certainly God understands,after all He made us sexual beings.” “Besides, they say, David God’s beloved did it and many of others who were God’s people and God understood them and forgives”.
    The youth of today think nothing of “folly” for its all around them in song,language,media,you name it…..to them it’s ok.( Especially our Christian kids who have watched leaders or parents who have “follied” around.) Children follow what we do not what we say!!
    3. Your message has reinforced in me there still is a “right” and “wrong” way of doing things that has been so deeply instilled in my heart by God prrsonally, that people disagree with me on. It is still ok for me to hold on tightly to what my Lord says is right and wrong whether people agree or not. There is a fine line between obedience to the Lord and being Legalistic. I don’t ever want to be legalistic and constantly search my heart for it and have asked God to correct me if I am doing it.. I just simply want to choose obedience for it truly has brought life to me.
    4. The pornography falls into the same catagory. It’s folly too but I know Christians who disagree with that.
    5.This message brings such an ache in my heart for the people of God and for those who don’t know him. What you spoke of Trevor is truth!! My heart cries out for God’s mercy. We must not stand even at the door of folly or listen to her seduction ….she lies…it’s never secret, it will always bite you in the butt some where in one’s life. I’ve seen that happen over and over.
    6. By some Im consided being old now, according to my age. At This Age I’m Not Sure Of What My Purpose Is but what I do know is God’s way of doing things is so much better than my way. Your message has once again reinforced that in me whether I’m young or old! So thank you sir.
    Proverbs has been one of God’s way of teaching me personally for almost 47 years since Ive known Him and it’s been the very tool I’ve used with my children and now grand children.
    I am delighted about this teaching you and Dale are on and look forward for each Sunday.
    Thank you both for speaking truth and for bringing in forgiveness to the people.
    I’m sue your daddy God is pleased with his two boys! :•)

  3. Powerful sermon on Saturday night by Pastor Trevor. Much needed as I’ve been praying on this topic.
    Thank you.

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