Rev. Trevor Johnston &
Eric Stewart, Director of Student Ministries
Series: The Naked Truth
Week 4: Choose What You Lose
- See if you can close your eyes and recite our memory verse together: 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 – “19 Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own;20 you were bought at a price. Therefore, honor God with your bodies.”
- If you are willing, share with your group any ways God has used this verse in your life to teach, encourage or bless you. Does it have new meaning for you as a result of this sermon series?
- What is the difference between love and lust?
For reference, one powerful way love is defined in scripture is in 1 Corinthians 13: 4-7 4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
- Lust is the reverse of love. Using the same 1 Corinthians verses of scripture above, what words would you substitute when you also substitute the word “love” with “lust”?
Read Matthew 5:27-30 “27 “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’[a]28 But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. 29 If your right eye causes you to stumble, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell.30 And if your right hand causes you to stumble, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell.”
- Notice how Jesus mentions the heart in verse 28. Why do you think this is important? How does lust affect the heart?
- Some may think these verses suggest that we are to cut out all desires from our lives. What do you think? Share and discuss your thoughts with the group.
Eric and Trevor quoted C.S. Lewis from his book “The Weight of Glory” – “It would seem that Our Lord finds our desires not too strong, but too weak. We are half-hearted creatures, fooling about with drink and sex and ambition when infinite joy is offered us, like an ignorant child who wants to go on making mud pies in a slum because he cannot imagine what is meant by the offer of a holiday at the sea. We are far too easily pleased.”
- Share your thoughts on this quote.
Read Matthew 5:29-30 again: 29 If your right eye causes you to stumble, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell.30 And if your right hand causes you to stumble, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell.”
- Is Jesus literally suggesting that we mutilate our bodies if a part of it causes us to sin? What is he really talking about here?
- We are to ‘Choose what we lose’ in regards to staying clean from sexual sin of all kinds. Following is a list of suggested things that may need to be removed if they are causing lust to creep into our lives:
- TV Shows & Movies
- Online Media (books, websites, apps, social media)
- Smart Phones
Go through the list and discuss why you think each item might be on the list; add other items you can think of to the list that could be a danger as well.
- Read Romans 8:13 – “For if you live according to the flesh you will die, but if by the Holy Spirit you put to death the deeds of the body, you will live.”
Who can we count on to help us put to death the lustful deeds of the body?
- Offer some suggestions of what activities can be added to our lives when we have to “choose what to lose”? (For instance, Eric gave the example of a friend of his who chose to use a ‘dumb phone’ when his ‘smart phone’ proved to be too much of a temptation for him. Other suggestions might include things like calling a friend, exercising, taking a class, etc.)
You get to choose what you lose, so choose wisely.
Now or later: Take some time to visit the website “Fight the New Drug” and read some of the articles about the ways that pornography negatively impacts the brain, the heart and the world.
Reach out to members of your group that you trust and ask for accountability if you need to cut something out of YOUR life.